Ding Dong the Witch is Dead

Looks like they are celebrating, doesn't it? Cheers! This photo tells the story.  I found this picture on the camera I took with me in my hasty and hurtful departure from Lake Martin.  This big party must have been only days before.  Everyone looks really happy. But the truth is if it were not distorted you would see my ex is not smiling.   Somewhere deep in his heart, the pain he is causing to himself and to those he was supposed to take care of, provide for and love, must be crushing the good time. The young woman is the soon to be ex daughter in law, soon to be lover, celebrating her father in law's terrible decision, morally, ethically, spiritually and financially to have an affair and get divorced from his wife who loved him and betrayal of all the people who loved her. Now which witch was it that died? Oh, yes, it was the wicked witch.
One of the most important components of making it through rough and heartbreaking times is surrounding yourself with others who are strong, grounded and truly caring of you.  If you find in your life that the people you spend the most time with don't know their way around the Bible, the neighborhood or the English language, find some new people.  A recent study found that you are even more likely to be over weight if your friends are.  Even more importantly, just like your Daddy said, you will reflect the values of your friends. Have people in your life who know what matters.  Listen to them and let them help you.  If you find that in terrible times, the people around you do not understand the seriousness of your difficulties, seem to rejoice in your misfortune or have an interest or agenda of their own, you are not surrounding yourself with the right people.  My ex left me and surrounded himself with others who thought his getting a divorce from me was in their best interest financially and who saw my being out of the picture as an opening for them. He surrounded himself with people who did not help him see his responsiblities or shortcomings but who told him what he wanted to hear. Played to his weaknesses. It may work out that the best thing to happen to you was to get out of a hurtful marriage, or the breakup of a long time partnership or loss of a job, but only time will tell.  Hold on to the one who's holding you and the ones who are holding you up, not bringing you down.